This is quite a common tendency. And primarily for Indians it's more of an idiosyncrasy. This moots up among all age groups,without any tint of partiality and in all places that attracts people in groups for those chit-chats. This can lighten a situation by being jest-filled or even provoke a war like environment. So what's this "this"? It's the petite nosy attitude that most of us have , making us interested in others more than ourselves. So what's wrong in this ? Is it something like a no!no! to keep updated about others affairs (here I mean their activities :P) or enquire about what others are upto so that you could be the topper of "Who's who" list and what's currently trending among your clan ?. Well , it is not so until you maintain the so called limits with which you can approach a person. This is what I want to discuss in this article.
To understand what exactly this nosy attitude means, I would like to cast few examples that explains itself. Firstly let's consider the dramatic scenario at home on the day of our 10th standard or 12th standard board examination results. There the bike starts and gears up with full speed whether or not in reality but at least in our stomachs as we check the results ,with our parents' eyes glued to the monitor (yeah almost all of us check our results online :P) that looks brighter than what we think is our future and with the grandparents sitting at a stone's throw from us chanting all those lines from scriptures to make the God shower blessings disguised as marks. Then this volcano stays dormant until you check your marks but erupts the same day when the so called relatives whom I bet you guessed didn't exist make their calls ,and sadly in most cases visit your home. Then comes the uncle's mother-in-law's sister's daughter's son's stories , where the alienated relatives with their honed skills starts comparing the marks , asking you your marks just as the criminals get questioned by an officer. There,you stand in the court scenario with the "Whatever I say is the truth....blah blah..." verse running in the background. The nosy affair starts here. So what's the problem of those people who didn't know that you existed ,during hardships but come straightway to enquire marks when declared ? Don't you think this nosy habit balks at the personal space of people?. Ironically , it does.
It just doesn't end there but travel to places as we commute. Why not marriages and get together functions? They prove places of gossips and untold stories about people. There this curious behavior creeps in like a hole through the tight wall.How many of us questioned by those so called aunties and uncles , just because they have right to ask silly questions due to their age?. For most of the times , it's not the care for us which makes them ask such questions ( at least we would be happy if it's that ) ,but it's that attitude that's ready to put us down by saying boastful stories of their wards and grandchildren the moment we finish. You are at blame if you are not engaged (for the one's in late 20's) , or you are at blame if you are not one among those millions who land up in the so called creamy IT jobs (for them any other domain is waste of time and money. At least for most) or the last question that turns up would be about the salary. The most irritating fact is when all these questions have to be answered as a quench for their curiosity and not as a matter of care or responsibility in guiding us. This indeed is a very nosy affair.
Why put the entire blame on the elders ? Often , we youngsters end up poking our nose and piquing into people's affairs beyond our limits. Gossips do arise , but that's not the thing at blame. Kidding and gossiping go hand in hand in friendship. But what matters most is the amount of healthy personal space that each of us maintain and the way each one should act without intruding into this. The most important fact is that your concern for others and the curious nature to know about their being and happenings should not hurt or irritate them . For this nosy attitude not only lowers your image but also leads to troubled circumstances that goes beyond control.
So can we start reducing this nosy habit of ours and instead show real concern and care for the people around us ?. Well, it's high time we should.
To understand what exactly this nosy attitude means, I would like to cast few examples that explains itself. Firstly let's consider the dramatic scenario at home on the day of our 10th standard or 12th standard board examination results. There the bike starts and gears up with full speed whether or not in reality but at least in our stomachs as we check the results ,with our parents' eyes glued to the monitor (yeah almost all of us check our results online :P) that looks brighter than what we think is our future and with the grandparents sitting at a stone's throw from us chanting all those lines from scriptures to make the God shower blessings disguised as marks. Then this volcano stays dormant until you check your marks but erupts the same day when the so called relatives whom I bet you guessed didn't exist make their calls ,and sadly in most cases visit your home. Then comes the uncle's mother-in-law's sister's daughter's son's stories , where the alienated relatives with their honed skills starts comparing the marks , asking you your marks just as the criminals get questioned by an officer. There,you stand in the court scenario with the "Whatever I say is the truth....blah blah..." verse running in the background. The nosy affair starts here. So what's the problem of those people who didn't know that you existed ,during hardships but come straightway to enquire marks when declared ? Don't you think this nosy habit balks at the personal space of people?. Ironically , it does.
It just doesn't end there but travel to places as we commute. Why not marriages and get together functions? They prove places of gossips and untold stories about people. There this curious behavior creeps in like a hole through the tight wall.How many of us questioned by those so called aunties and uncles , just because they have right to ask silly questions due to their age?. For most of the times , it's not the care for us which makes them ask such questions ( at least we would be happy if it's that ) ,but it's that attitude that's ready to put us down by saying boastful stories of their wards and grandchildren the moment we finish. You are at blame if you are not engaged (for the one's in late 20's) , or you are at blame if you are not one among those millions who land up in the so called creamy IT jobs (for them any other domain is waste of time and money. At least for most) or the last question that turns up would be about the salary. The most irritating fact is when all these questions have to be answered as a quench for their curiosity and not as a matter of care or responsibility in guiding us. This indeed is a very nosy affair.
Why put the entire blame on the elders ? Often , we youngsters end up poking our nose and piquing into people's affairs beyond our limits. Gossips do arise , but that's not the thing at blame. Kidding and gossiping go hand in hand in friendship. But what matters most is the amount of healthy personal space that each of us maintain and the way each one should act without intruding into this. The most important fact is that your concern for others and the curious nature to know about their being and happenings should not hurt or irritate them . For this nosy attitude not only lowers your image but also leads to troubled circumstances that goes beyond control.
So can we start reducing this nosy habit of ours and instead show real concern and care for the people around us ?. Well, it's high time we should.
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