Well to those people out there, who grumble due to dissatisfaction and and are not sated with their day's activities and life largely, here, this article is a must read for you. (At times, I am included in this category though. And I solely take the contents of this article ,if in case my memory becomes short term, forgetting these pieces of advises..).
Its human tendency to expect. Expectation forms the greatest idiosyncrasy ( each of us think that way though) of each individual. That too in terms of happiness, all of us want it so desperately that if we don't achieve it, it becomes the biggest desiderium. It's not wrong to long for happiness as it makes us more pleased and satisfied.However the wrong part is to feel depressed and bad when we don't achieve it. What is the solution to this problem?.
From an engineer's point of view ( Yes..I am one), it is always expected to know the cause of the problem before jumping into the stage of finding the solution. This problem of dissatisfaction occurs because we always look out for happiness in a large scale. We always estimate that happiness is something that should please us in a more larger way and have its impact wide spread. That is the reason for us to get disappointed at the end of the day ,when according to us ,all the activities of the day turned out badly. Now coming into the solution part, my opinion is that this problem can be solved if we come to understand the point that happiness comes in smaller dozes. The cliched saying goes " Great things come in small packages". Consider happiness to be a great thing that can experienced in a small scale but yeah leaving a much more cloyed feeling .
Putting it in simple words, develop the mentality to smile and feel happy for little things, say , for the little cup of coffee that you share with your buddy, for the free time (say even few minutes )that you spend in the college / at work sharing your gossips and funny thoughts with your friends, for walking or strolling in the garden with the nature at its best, for the small tests that you perform well, for the hobbies that you carry out , for the time that you spend with your pet , for the time you listen to your favorite music etc. These things could be small, sometimes could even be funny to hear.But the impact of such small things is surely higher. Another saying goes
" Small drops make a big ocean". In the same way these small instances of happiness, make the moments cherishable and splendid. So even when you think that you are displeased at the end of the day, being vexed and unhappy, just close your eyes for a moment and recollect all the happy moments that you experienced that day( could be the ones that are mentioned above or any other experiences). These moments together gives a huge feeling of happiness and though if you think it can never equate for the bad experiences of the day, I am sure that it can at least lessen the burden of your day making you build up good hopes .
So always don't consider happiness to come to you like a 1000 waala, used in Diwali, giving you one shot bliss. But give rooms for small packages or dozes of happiness , like a small flower pot, which when kindled, gives a colourful wide spread light thereby delighting us . So do you still have doubts that small dozes of happiness exist??Well then, try out the above and find the difference i.e the solution for yourself.
Its human tendency to expect. Expectation forms the greatest idiosyncrasy ( each of us think that way though) of each individual. That too in terms of happiness, all of us want it so desperately that if we don't achieve it, it becomes the biggest desiderium. It's not wrong to long for happiness as it makes us more pleased and satisfied.However the wrong part is to feel depressed and bad when we don't achieve it. What is the solution to this problem?.
From an engineer's point of view ( Yes..I am one), it is always expected to know the cause of the problem before jumping into the stage of finding the solution. This problem of dissatisfaction occurs because we always look out for happiness in a large scale. We always estimate that happiness is something that should please us in a more larger way and have its impact wide spread. That is the reason for us to get disappointed at the end of the day ,when according to us ,all the activities of the day turned out badly. Now coming into the solution part, my opinion is that this problem can be solved if we come to understand the point that happiness comes in smaller dozes. The cliched saying goes " Great things come in small packages". Consider happiness to be a great thing that can experienced in a small scale but yeah leaving a much more cloyed feeling .
Putting it in simple words, develop the mentality to smile and feel happy for little things, say , for the little cup of coffee that you share with your buddy, for the free time (say even few minutes )that you spend in the college / at work sharing your gossips and funny thoughts with your friends, for walking or strolling in the garden with the nature at its best, for the small tests that you perform well, for the hobbies that you carry out , for the time that you spend with your pet , for the time you listen to your favorite music etc. These things could be small, sometimes could even be funny to hear.But the impact of such small things is surely higher. Another saying goes
" Small drops make a big ocean". In the same way these small instances of happiness, make the moments cherishable and splendid. So even when you think that you are displeased at the end of the day, being vexed and unhappy, just close your eyes for a moment and recollect all the happy moments that you experienced that day( could be the ones that are mentioned above or any other experiences). These moments together gives a huge feeling of happiness and though if you think it can never equate for the bad experiences of the day, I am sure that it can at least lessen the burden of your day making you build up good hopes .
So always don't consider happiness to come to you like a 1000 waala, used in Diwali, giving you one shot bliss. But give rooms for small packages or dozes of happiness , like a small flower pot, which when kindled, gives a colourful wide spread light thereby delighting us . So do you still have doubts that small dozes of happiness exist??Well then, try out the above and find the difference i.e the solution for yourself.
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