Are you really defined by who you are?

Well. This question, a barely easy one to be asked , faces its complexity only when faced or in other words, answered. There is a clean difference between the questions posed to you and the questions that you pose to yourself. In fact in many cases they might be a same question, but would differ in the angle in which it is approached. One such example is the homespun statement "What is the definition of you?". From this article I don't intend to derive a periphrasis, but what I want to clearly convey through this is that are all of us defined by the way we are , when questioned to ourselves?, literally meaning that can you still stay independent and defined by yourself when in a troglodytic situation, not accompanied by your clan?. Well, that surely demands a lot of courage and confidence. 
                                           To most of us ( inclusive of me), a normal day like any other one would not surpass without roaming with our own folks. It is a human tendency to get along in groups the minute you are free. Just recollect the instances such as in school and college, where the moment we know we are put to no work, we gather in groups ( here I mean more than one itself as a group). This surrounding groupism not only ends with the free time but also continues beyond thoughts. There occurs few times where you may always be surrounded by your own sweet friends , pampered and praised by few of them, having the out of the world kind of fun that you would never have had in life. That moment may make you feel that you have got the best of the best that any could deserve. Imagining such a situation itself gives you the sheer happiness and that furore. In fact you could go to that extreme level where you cannot stay a second without your group and sometimes letting them occupy the prominent part of your life.These things would undoubtedly drive you to give that instant reply to the previously stated question- I am defined by my friends or the dear ones I have.Even a minute without them might make you weak and lonely.
                                           Okay. Now coming to the real essence of this article, I am not mentioning this to put down that spirit in you, nor do I state this to invoke that sarcasm about the ones who accompany you. In a real world situation, when you are alone, all alone with no one to stay with you, would you still define yourself with that above stated reply? What I really intend to convey is that always situations do not butter up smoothly. There might be situations in life where you are really facing it in solitary. So it is high time that each one of us should be defined by who really we are, by our potential, by our confidence, by our aims , in other words by our degree of independence. It is always healthy to spend time alone for it might tell you how to be alone and face life individually rather than  defined by another person. Learn to handle things your way, for you may not always be surrounded by the people speaking your opinions and taking your decisions and don't ever let that too.
Now have you realized to which category you belong? If so act promptly by just considering this article  as a sign of a healthy tip for a good life.  

That one step towards a social cause

All of us in this world are blessed to be born as humans. With many stories telling us the need of God creating the humans, the truth that stands apart is that to help each other and build a healthy and peaceful generation. Right from the olden days to this milieu, there has always been a ghetto in the minds of people that turned them to be very conservative and putting down their social thinking ability. Always it is believed that the children form the future of our nation. But today with the statistical data of our nation showing a huge rise in the number homeless, illiterate, underprivileged children it is ironical to sustain without taking any measures to overcome it. Also our country is facing major crisis of pollution and death tolls due to epidemic diseases, putting us in threat. So there comes a call for the responsible actions of us, in order to take a step towards the burning social issues.                                                

                           Being a college student, one most common and the simplest medium that one can adopt is nurturing knowledge and inculcating that learning process in many young minds. I was extremely happy when this was met by the “Teach A School” event of my college's EDC( Entrepreneurship Development Cell) .I am very proud for being a part of it as it taught me what real happiness and pleasure means. It was at that time I felt that imparting knowledge and teaching a piece of something that we know, would go long miles in creating a brighter future for these young kids. Also current data shows that there are many children who are still deprived of their primary education. If we could just take that one step in spending our leisure time with these kids, teaching and enjoying with them, I am sure that it will give you the feeling of life’s fulfillment.  All that it requires is the social interest and that hand of yours which is ready to be lent out for helping. This project would surely bring a massive change in the society if carried out at a faster pace with more people joining hands in building a better future.

                             Another way to extend this support of ours is organizing a fund raising event, where each of us can put in an affordable sum, contributed to resolve the problems of illiteracy, malnutrition, cure of deadly diseases and many other burning issues. This little effort of ours may go to the zenith of improving the lives of many, providing the basic necessities like food, education, medicines etc for many underprivileged people. Well, isn’t this something that is possible by each of us? One can also indulge in the activities that involve collecting stationeries, eatables and basic requirements for daily life and distribute it to the needy students and people.

                           Periodic visits to old age homes and homes for the destitute children in order to distribute the above collected things, sweets, clothing and many other items may also suffice to provide happiness to the one giving and receiving. For isn’t life build on that giving and receiving? Yes, this small outreach of ours may do wonders in the lives of destitute children, who believe that they have many sisters and brothers reaching out to them in need, and also for the old people, who may take each of us as a grandson/granddaughter, feeling satisfied and giving us their well wishes. So this small act if ours not only proves beneficial for the society, but also for us, helping us to receive abundant happiness and pleasure.

                          Yet another way is to raise your voice towards any awareness programs conducted across the city. There are many happenings which include the ones like Go green campaign, Fighting cancer, polio awareness, beach cleanups and rallies. By being a part of such prime programs, one can aid in spreading the word among the people so that there comes more involvement.

                          Finally, the thought conveyed is that this little contribution of ours towards a social cause can accrue and result in a million hands joining a project, in improving our surrounding and the nation at large. So it is important that we become sensitive to the needs of the people around us, for giving and sharing forms the woven parts of our lives. Being a part of a social cause is more like a bouncing ball! For a bouncing ball, more the force you put in throwing it, the faster it reaches you. Similarly, more the effort you put in to help people, the faster it reaches you as happiness, pleasure and contentment in disguise. So at least this year, all of us should make it a point to involve in any social event and take that one step towards a social cause.

To that someone in you!

Hey people,
 Well, before you bump on into the car of curiosities, let me tell you that the someone within you, each of you, is you. Okay I am not planning on a session on tongue twisters :). What I want to convey through this tale is a simple concept, the concept of pleasing yourself,loving yourself, patting yourself and most importantly taking care of the 'you' in yourself.


                                      All of us have a heart, which from a philosopher's and a biologist's point of view is a fist's size. But it has the power of withstanding all that you dump in it, where the capacity may exceed even the amount of air in 100 balloons. In fact the you, who the world sees, is the personification of your heart. So the real you  lies in your heart. Well if it is important to take care of yourself externally, isn't it important to take care of the inner you? In fact the inner you is the most stupid of all. It gives room for all the worries, fears , anxieties and above all only remainder of its space to the most essential ones being hope, love ,care, faith and trust. But heart doesn't know to prioritize things because being your heart, it thinks that all you put in it is important. In this way , the more you keep sending your stressful things, the more the inner you turns fragile and weak. And finally, you being the personification of it , are affected. This turns you into a gloomy, dull and fearful person, making you lose the best moments of your life. So spending quality time in taking care of the inner you becomes the call of the moment.

                                     The healing for this lies just in your hands and more specifically in your mindset. It is known that fear, worries and pains form an integral part of life and they are indispensable. But if we try to solve our day to day issues, and dealing even the biggest problems smoothly, they tend to gradually lessen and hence the amount of dumping into the inner you decreases. Now if you start filling the emptied space with more positive attitudes, love, happiness and cheerfulness,I am sure that your heart can hold even more than the amount with which it survived earlier because it's the lightest of lightest feelings that you are filling.Try to calm yourself  by giving hopes to your heart at painful moments, by consoling your heart at bad times, by thanking your heart at happy times, and by patting the inner you at proud moments. Remember, the inner you is more fragile than a new-born. So giving it proper care is very essential . So, when the inner you is taken care of, isn't it enough for you to stay happy and young ever?.

Practice the portmanteau -Selfidence

Well for those avid dictionary users, before you get into conclusions, let me tell you that this word 'Selfidence' is my own creation. Probably it has emerged due to my liking for the portmanteaus.

                                               But yeah, this article concerns more about the thought delivered by the coined term, and not about the portmanteau!. When recalling our High School days, where we were exposed to the so called blended words called portmanteau words, considering the most standard and common example our teachers taught us "smoke+fog=smog", the word "Selfidence" is  no hard to guess. Yes, It is the blending of two most important priceless words, "Self" and "Confidence".

All of us know that we lack this self confidence , many a time in our life. But it is ironical that we have started losing the "self", meaning oneself and also confidence at present and thereby adjourning the entire word .

                                                Now what is this self confidence? How will it be useful in life?I know  these questions seem so familiar and rekindling as I am sure all of us would have  had our doze of advice on these things, when we were young. Considering the former, let me give you an instance which describes this self-confidence. You are put to test, with some biggest and the toughest task. Your brain, thinking that it's being more systematic and diplomatic, comes to a blind conclusion that this job is not apt for you, and you cannot yield the result. But this heart of yours, trying to give counter to this impetuous brain, irks you. Somewhere deep down your heart, you will fell that you can do it, and if not you who will do it. As a forest fire, this tiny feeling starts spreading and finally recharges your thinking, giving you that confidence to take up things boldly. Yes. This is what is self confidence. To put it in simple terms, it is the simplest, no-cost tool that makes you believe that you are worth it, to do anything and  end it in success.Even if you feel that your life is improving its shades of balefulness and fear starting to behave as a poltergeist , stealing your inner peace and calm mind ,don't panic. This self confidence can make you wake up from the bed of sorrows, fear , doubts, stress and your nadirs. It makes you more happy and proud of yourself , giving you a cheerful smile and stress free feeling. Isn't that the most important part of life?. If not you, who will make up your life? Who can live it for you? Who can face your hardships? Who can achieve laurels?So gear up your Selfidence and walk the happiest path of your life. We are tuned to memorize formulas! If it's easy to learn up your differential equations and page-long formulae and derivations in minutes, I hope "Self+Confidence=Selfidence" won't take you seconds .:)

The Recipe of Life

Hey people. Today lets learn something new. A new??The common  bond that unites all of us is food. Both living and eating contemplates each other. Ironically, many don't know cooking. And few presume that the process of cooking is complicated and is something rare (though they think eating is common). With Diwali round the corner, all of us will surely have reminiscences of hankering after the mouthwatering traditionally made sweets and savories at home. That sweet tooth of ours becomes tangible only at times like this, when we spend the day leisurely, indulging in our favorite picks. Well, with people knowing many recipes, I am here to make you all aware of the the most easiest yet the delectable recipe- The Recipe of life. Along with the other dishes, try this out too and I am sure this out beats all the other recipes once its done in its defined way. Why wait? Lets begin.
THE RECIPE OF LIFE:
Serves: All. Most specially the people around you .
Preparation time: Depends on the individual's capacity.But the more sooner it's done, the more piquant it'll turn out.
Ingredients:
For the main platter:
 4 large cups of Happiness
2 medium sized containers of love.
( Follow the ratio of 4:2 for both happiness and love)
2-3 table spoons of powdered anxieties and sorrows( make sure you crush them well..Otherwise the taste of the recipe will differ)
1 tin of sweetened and pleasing words and actions 
Few packets of desires , hopes and wishes for roasting
For garnishing:
Few tea spoons of smiles
A relaxed mind and heart for plating .
METHOD OF PREPARATION:
-> Pour the cups of happiness in a large pan and keep stirring it until it boils. The more you stir it to the boiling point, the more saturated it gets ,thereby giving a strong flavor for the dish of life. It's the happiness that should rule your dish of life. This initial step of preparation characterizes the remaining steps. So do it carefully and correctly.
-> Now when happiness has reached its strong level in the dish, it should be followed by half its proportion of Love. So when the amount of happiness accrues, the amount of love automatically follows it. Mix thoroughly until it forms a thick consistency.
-> After following the above steps, add few table spoons of  finely crushed and powdered anxieties and sorrows. The more you crush them, the better they will mix in the batter of happiness and love, and thereby goes unseen. But if you do not powder them well, then they might be seen as particles in your dish, thereby altering its taste and sometimes , over ruling the happiness and love, and giving your life's dish the bitter taste.
-> Add the tin of sweetened and pleasing words and actions to the above prepared mixture . This need not be restricted to one but can be added depending on the requirement of the individual. This improves the taste of your dish and makes it more appetizing.
-> Now, gently roast the contents in the packets of hopes, wishes and desires, until they become golden-brown, and become ready for their fruitful actions in reality. Once they attain this stage, add them to the mixture prepared.
-> With all the ingredients added, kindly stir the mixture for one last time, before finishing the process. 
Now your dish of life is ready for serving.
-> This dish of life is sure to attract people if you have prepared it carefully , following the previously discussed steps. To make it more appealing, you can garnish your dish of life with few tea spoons of smile, may be even more, as per your wish. Plate your dish with a warm and kind ,heart and mind.

 I am sure that this dish of yours becomes the greatest hit this Diwali and also after that, whenever you make it. Try it out. All the best :).

The Power of Acceptance

Well! Am back with another tale. I hope this tale would help you all , in your life's nadirs as well as in situations beyond your control!.

               It's human psychology to expect and in turn get disappointed with many things ! All of us are familiar with the adage "Expectations hurt". True to its meaning, it does turn the right litmus in many incidents .Not all happenings of your life ,can get its sugar coating. Few incidents may land you up in complete despair , especially when not tasting the success , as you would have worked to your zenith to achieve it. When faced such a situation , the apt call would be to think what it has done to you personally and try to rectify it , rather than rooting to its cause, as brooding over the past never yields.
             For those people out there , who are in a snafu, panicked and are in search of a solution, here's a tip! The six lettered word " accept " is no new to us! Well , this article is just a kindling , so that you actually put to use, the other meaning of accept, the needed, for the one in need!  Accept means, literally that , accept any situation! Say for instance, your day is bad, or your results are down, or your expected moment never arrived,or something fails, or all your deeds are never fruitful, don't worry! Just calm down and think of the word accept! Just take things the way it turns out! Do not grumble for such abysmal incidents , instead , if you accept the way it turns out and try to improvise the solution, and rise back with a bang next time,  I am sure that the nectar of success becomes yours! If on the contrary, you get upset and lose hope, this may yield you nothing other than a situation where you tend to hate yourself. So the miracle that this simple word "accept" can do is far beyond imagination! It makes you grow optimistic as well as gives you the mindset and temerity to face much more harder phases of your life ! And whoa! You can also start convincing people and helping them out with their problems! Isn't that cool? So guys , try adopting this simple mantra and see the changes in you , for the better way !
                 

Do small dozes of happiness exist?

Well to those people out there, who grumble due to dissatisfaction and and are not sated with their day's activities and life largely, here, this article is a must read for you. (At times, I am included in this category though. And I solely take the contents of this article ,if in case my memory becomes short term, forgetting these pieces of advises..).
                                       Its human tendency to expect. Expectation forms the greatest idiosyncrasy ( each of us think that way though) of each individual. That too in terms of happiness, all of us want it so desperately that if we don't achieve it, it becomes the biggest desiderium. It's not wrong to long for happiness as it makes us more pleased and satisfied.However the wrong part is to feel depressed and bad when we don't achieve it. What is the solution to this problem?.
                                       From an engineer's point of view ( Yes..I am one), it is always expected to know the cause of the problem before jumping into the stage of finding the solution. This problem of dissatisfaction occurs because we always look out for happiness in a large scale. We always estimate that happiness is something that should please us in a more larger way and have its impact wide spread. That is the reason for us to get disappointed at the end of the day ,when according to us ,all the activities of the day turned out badly. Now coming into the solution part, my opinion is that this problem can be solved if we come to understand the point that happiness comes in smaller dozes. The cliched saying goes " Great things come in small packages". Consider happiness to be a great thing that can experienced in a small scale but yeah leaving a much more cloyed feeling .
                                   Putting it in simple words, develop the mentality to smile and feel happy for little things, say , for the little cup of coffee that you share with your buddy, for the free time (say even few minutes )that you spend in the college / at work sharing your gossips and funny thoughts with your friends, for walking or strolling in the garden with the nature at its best, for the small tests that you perform well, for the hobbies that you carry out , for the time that you spend with your pet , for the time you listen to your favorite music etc. These things could be small, sometimes could even be funny to hear.But the impact of such small things is surely higher. Another saying goes
" Small drops make a big ocean". In the same way these small instances of happiness, make the moments cherishable and splendid. So even when you think that you are displeased at the end of the day, being vexed and unhappy, just close your eyes for a moment and recollect all the happy moments that you experienced that day( could be the ones that are mentioned above or any other experiences). These moments together gives a huge feeling of happiness and though if you think it can never equate for the bad experiences of the day, I am sure that it can at least lessen the burden of your day making you build up  good hopes . 
                                                  
                                     So always don't consider happiness to come to you like a 1000 waala, used in Diwali, giving you one shot bliss. But give rooms for small packages or dozes of happiness , like a small flower pot, which when kindled, gives a colourful wide spread light thereby delighting us . So do you still have doubts that small dozes of happiness exist??Well then, try out the above and find the difference i.e the solution for yourself.