The nosy affairs

This is quite a common tendency. And primarily for Indians it's more of an idiosyncrasy. This moots up among all age groups,without any tint of partiality and in all places that attracts people in groups for those chit-chats. This can lighten a situation by being jest-filled or even provoke a war like environment. So what's this "this"? It's the petite nosy attitude that most of us have , making us interested in others more than ourselves. So what's wrong in this ? Is it something like a no!no! to keep updated about others affairs (here I mean their activities :P) or enquire about what others are upto so that you could be the topper of "Who's who" list and what's currently trending among your clan ?. Well , it is not so until you maintain the so called limits with which you can approach a person. This is what I want to discuss in this article.
                                                 To understand what exactly this nosy attitude means, I would like to cast few examples that explains itself.  Firstly let's consider the dramatic scenario at home on the day of our 10th standard or 12th standard board examination results. There the bike starts and gears up with full speed whether or not in reality but at least in our stomachs as we check the results ,with our parents' eyes glued to the monitor (yeah almost all of us check our results online :P) that looks brighter than what we think is our future and with the grandparents sitting at a stone's throw from us chanting all those lines from scriptures to make the God shower blessings disguised as marks. Then this volcano stays dormant until you check your marks but erupts the same day when the so called relatives whom I bet you guessed didn't exist make their calls ,and sadly in most cases visit your home. Then comes the uncle's mother-in-law's sister's daughter's son's stories , where the alienated relatives with their honed skills starts comparing the marks , asking you your marks just as the criminals get questioned by an officer. There,you stand in the court scenario with the "Whatever I say is the truth....blah blah..." verse running in the background. The nosy affair starts here. So what's the problem of those people who didn't know that you existed ,during hardships but come straightway to enquire marks when declared ? Don't you think this nosy habit  balks at the personal space of people?. Ironically , it does.
                                                It just doesn't end there but travel to places as we commute. Why not marriages and get together functions? They prove places of gossips and untold stories about people. There this curious behavior creeps in like a hole through the tight wall.How many of us questioned by those so called aunties and uncles , just because they have right to ask silly questions due to their age?. For most of the times , it's not the care for us which makes them ask such questions ( at least we would be happy if it's that ) ,but it's that attitude that's ready to put us down by saying boastful stories of their wards and grandchildren the moment we finish. You are at blame if you are not engaged (for the one's in late 20's) , or you are at blame if you are not one among those millions who land up in the so called creamy IT jobs (for them any other domain is waste of time and money. At least for most) or the last question that turns up would be about the salary. The most irritating fact is when all these questions have to be answered as a quench for their curiosity and not as a matter of care or responsibility in guiding us. This indeed is a very nosy affair.
                                          Why put the entire blame on the elders ? Often , we youngsters end up poking our nose and piquing into people's affairs beyond our limits. Gossips do arise , but that's not the thing at blame. Kidding and gossiping go hand in hand in friendship. But what matters most is the amount of  healthy personal space that each of us maintain and the way each one should act without intruding into this. The most important fact is that your concern for others and the curious nature to know about their being and happenings should not hurt or irritate them . For this nosy attitude not only lowers your image but also leads to troubled circumstances that goes beyond control.
                           
So can we start reducing this nosy habit of ours and instead  show real concern and care for the people around us ?. Well, it's high time we should.
                       

Of those oxymorons in our lives

Well, they are so feigned. They are those few of the usual words uttered by us in our everyday conversation .Yet we don't really seem to notice them for they tide along the flow of talk. Yeah, so the "they" that is mentioned here are the Oxymorons. I'm glad for those who already know what it means. (Oxymoron , as the name may seem new, is an old concept belonging to figures of speech. For those of you who have memories of spending your high school days with  red-tinged Wren&Martin book, this term is no new.). In simple terms , ever tried juxtaposing words for fun? Well , if not no worries, for oxymorons do the needed by consisting words juxtaposed for contrast. They are paired words with contrast meanings. Interestingly, the word "Oxymoron" itself is an example for it meaning the words "sharp" and "dull", two unusually paired words of opposite meanings. This article is not a discussion of any point in particular , but just a tale to open up the concept of oxymorons and how funnily we end up using it in our normal conversations, in most cases without knowing.

And this is no special term because there are other figures of speech like simile and metaphor. This post is just out of my liking for "oxymorons".

So here are those oxymorons and the random examples ( You may have some other instances too). The bold words are the oxymorons.

                                      There are times of test in your life. They drive you crazy for you may not know how to go about and how to deal with. Neither their source nor their results may be known. Haven't you been absolutely unsure to take decisions ? Well you might have surely had. And then you say " Omg. Just don't know what this is up to! I'm absolutely unsure what move to make next".
                                      Then time may pass, you may land up in what the Engineering students call it as "the biggest problem" , the semester exams, that intrudes a happy life once in 3 months ( well , just don't believe the six month story , for its never been so ). The count down starts , one month to exams , 20 days ,3 days and finally the night before the exams. And then that friend of yours , who acts savior by telling you important questions to learn calls. You say, " Chancey illa! (No chance ) The only choice  is to leave this answer and go for there is no time". (Did you know that you were using an oxymoron? :P)
                                    And there, after the exams , you'll face another semester where the first day , fate tricks you by giving a lab period in the timetable. And there you go to the lab , without knowing what it concerns , and on the very first day of the sem (*facepalm). Also you being the unluckiest are put into a batch that goes to toughest lab class and the other batch manage to go to a lab with a.c's and fun loving teacher ( Engineering students would know what this means :D). After this class ,you come out , and the other batch students wait like monkeys seeing bananas coming, waiting to know how the session was, and you say " The sir /ma'am clearly confused . I don't understand the format for the record!Attending or not attending the class makes the same difference".
                                   And then , remember those fast paced evenings before the submission of records? We all end up going to the xerox shop and make the guy who runs the shop to run out of ink itself ,  by taking all our last-minute printouts. Half of the time we use our friend's completed record for our supreme xerox, for why waste our time formatting the stuff? :D. Then we say to the shop guy , "Anna (brother) this is original copy . Can you take xerox of it?".
                                    Those jobless times in class. We end up blathering and jabbering gossips. When gossips turn up , the gaucheness of yours come along and you comment about someone near you such that is turns into a loud whisper. There you are, deadlocked when that person hears you. Your non stop conversation would end in deafening silence.
                                    Have you tried to act naturally in certain circumstances instead of falsely pleasing others? Or  even when your patience ( or cool ) was found missing , were you  awfully good to that person at stake? . Have you asked for exact estimate while heading any event in college ?You would have at least once, and unknowingly you would have used the words.

                                 Ever known how contrasting words could hodgepodge into a sane and meaningful context?. Well you would at least now if you hadn't known so long.
                                     

Is destiny related to Math?

                                      It's a ubiquitous statement. It's uttered by all-aged persons. A simple one to use, as a matter of fact ,excuse or lament.  Yes, it's the line "It's fate". It is so common for us to say this whenever something happens out of our fence of expectations , or something happens to us in a negative way.Rarely do we use it when something of great value happens to us. It's always a heated debate whether one can change the so called fate and achieve something beyond it ,or one has to accept or lament over the fact of being destined in that way. People may have a varied opinion on this issue. But this article is solely what I feel, think and put into use in my life. So you can opt for this if you feel the same way . :)
                                 
                                      In my opinion , the preamble fact that I want to put forth is that that the destiny or the fate is related to the Math that we study from our kindergarten. Or in other terms, the concept of destiny can be explained by the basic Math that we have learnt in our lives. I really don't know what made me draw such relation , but somehow I feel that they coalesce.

                                      For the lives of few, the fate can be compared to the well known "Mathematical operator concept".When you wanna achieve something in life , or complete a task or succeed in some matter, you automatically start working towards it. But the way and the amount of work put in by you matters a lot in deciding, or more properly knowing your destiny. When your passion and hard work towards achieving something is exceedingly high or accrues then it can be compared to the "greater than operator" . In that case your hard work is surplus than the destined fate , where the fate fails to attack you.There comes the success and glory , with the fastest ever speed  targeting you. The simple formula

(Passion+Dream+Hard work ) > (so called fate) = You succeed (Higher chances)
This gives a greater chance of you changing your fate. Again , I here mean a higher chance (you'll know why I emphasize on this in few more lines to come).
                                    Similarly , when the amount of effort that you put in to achieve something is not that great enough ( for us it's always the best effort , but it may not be enough for attaining that goal  which I'm sure our hearts fail to accept. ), then the decided fate is higher hence we tend to reach situation of dejection and sorrow , having not achieved our goal. So here comes the "lesser than operator".

(Passion+Dream+Hard work ) < (so called fate) = You loose (In most cases)
Here again, it's in the most cases and not always. So once we reach this situation , all that runs in our minds is to work more assiduously (optimistic ) or stay there grumbling (pessimistic).

                                         Now the fact why I had already mentioned "higher chances" and "in most cases" , requires a mention here. Here I don't try to be pessimistic . But it's an explanation that I've had out of my personal experience and also having seen in other's lives. Though I gave the three para explanation , I know that most of you would nod to this aspect . Let's consider the people who die in everyday accidents , sudden ones. Let's consider the people and children who are affected by some grave disease say cancer , having no reasons for them to get acclimated to such pain. Think of the foetus that get aborted in the womb. Think of people who are just alive the previous minute but are tangled by the ropes of death the next minute by some terror attack or accidents. The above stated ones are just few examples of the unexpected events that are truly glued to the "Results of fate or destiny". The math concept used here is "log(0)". We know that log(0) is undefined. So are the cases included above (and many more like that ). These are the cases where a human cannot do anything in prior to change the destined writing of the amanuensis of God. They are undefined too. All we can do in these circumstances is to endure the pain or the results and hope for the best to happen in near future. Isn't it bleak? The answer is hard to say.

How to keep them unnoticed ?- The role of your privacy settings!

Oh no..It's not my addiction to Whatsapp. Well, just a glace at the title may make you think so. But what I really mean is something with a twist. Okay , our human minds are so accustomed that even a weird , absurd  topic could be easily understood by citing examples. Let me do that now , to explain what I really mean and not to make you mean to others but to improve the means of your life. ( yeah! you're right..just tried using that word in different contexts. :P).

                                               That excited and satisfactory moment finally arrives , a much awaited one in your life for what you have faced so long has only been the different sized siblings of failures and frustration. You are extremely sated with what has occurred. What you have got is the initial step for your path and you're sure that you'll meet success in just a few trials . But yeah there occur times where this confidence of yours may go down disparagingly. This may be either due to few pessimists , whose all day work is to grumble and just belittle you or due to few instants which may deter you from staying focused in your goal. You may feel completely hopeless and stranded in your so called goal-reaching path. What do you do ? How to butter up the situation?. How to bring back that confidence and power that motivates you ? .

                                                   No question in this world goes answer-less ( at least this is what I believe. No , don't stimulate your smart brains to shout out the cliched words "hypothetical questions".  :P). So in my opinion, the better solution to the above problems would be to use your abilities in the field of social networks , in your life. The preliminary step: Sync the concept of privacy settings. Well at least use this option here , in your life , even if you don't for blocking strangers in real life , for in your life it is essential to flush out the junk. So always keep this privacy mode of yours activated, for we don't know when we will come up with shitty people and messy situations. Just as a sensor , once such an event pokes up , your mind and your heart syncs together and blocks this from being processed. Just as the white blood cells tend to rush to the location where the infection occurs in your body when hurt ( yeah , I'm a pathetic biology student turned engineer who is trying to recollect the tint of the passionate biology learnt sometime ....nope...a longtime back) , the privacy setting of yours would stop the information on the bad people and events that perturb you , from gushing. Tada , you're almost out of the troublesome situation and back with the same zeal and energy to achieve your goal. But the continuity lies in how far you use your privacy setting option. This applies greatly to me too , for I'm also the kind of person who gets deterred. So together we shall activate our privacy settings and fight out our monstrous devils - both people and the situations putting us down. :D

When the letters go tangling

Okay, this substance may be in the same lines , say a sequel to the crux of my previous article , " the confessions of anonymous person". This time I'm gonna confess about something which you may think is so unlikely for anyone to notice or to grumble about. You may also think that this one is too intruding into people's idiosyncrasies. Well you can take an apology from my side before you could continue reading this tale. ( Well I actually don't wanna owe one , because I really think this is an incinerating issue ,that is least cared by people, and has become a latest fad among all aged folks ).
               Well, I want to put forward a collation ,the one of a person with his language. Can you imagine liking a person who is totally unkempt and disheveled? I know it can never happen in even in dreams ( Well. I'm not meaning any of those stereotype collections in the cine field where any sort of cupid strikes can happen :P). Well if you can't for the former , then how could you prefer the latter ? How can you not like an improper person and yet prefer the imperfect language?.Language being an integral part of our life , plays a silent watcher and can trip us at times. But the scenario now is that we go and fall a prey to such trips. What makes this happen is the "tangling of letters " . It's become a recent trend to use short forms , with no partiality for any word! Who knows , even as days tread, the words "short form"may themselves be indicated in a more petite form . These short forms not even imply the reduced form of the words, not even a drop of few letters , but involve a complete mix and match with letters tangling and dancing to their own tunes . We are so much used to such words that we almost forget the original spelling of the words and are in a scenario to sign up a monthly tuition with the 2nd grade kids , to learn them up .

       The worst situation that one could face is when you type bazillion lines explaining even that intricacies of the cusps of the jist , and there comes the moment when all that you'll as a reply is a "K" or "Ohhhkeey" or an even worse compressed form. It would have taken the same time to type an "okay" or at least an "OK". All you do sway your fingers , which do not consume a day's pay , but just few milliseconds extra. This laconic reply surely puts off the mood of the person who has taken an effort to convey something . This not only pertains to this word but for all those words in the English language. From what was called the way to achieve time efficacy, this is almost  turning into a fashion quotient and we have reached a situation where a person is considered to be berserk if he/she types normally.
                   " I m gtng lte..its 3 alrdy I hv 2 go thr by 4.wen shl v meet.." This is very well understood by all . No doubts .But what in my opinion is , what is that force that pulls you back from just spending that extra few seconds in typing the words fully? . And more appropriately why is that hindering you from being normal?. It's not that by saving these extra few seconds  we end up with a valuable day. It takes million such extra seconds to make up a day's hours and so why not use it when there rather than abstractly wanting it.
                Again what I mean here is not that short forms should never be used. And I also admit that I'm not a very avid follower of this. I too end up using few short forms like lol , btw and some more . But as specified above, it kills the beauty of the language and once it becomes an addiction, can trip us anytime, and hence may redound to unpleasant situations. In the long run what matters a lot is how well we are able to understand the essence of the language , and these fashion trends can prove to be an evanescence , and a new way of typing words ( to me...a more stupid way of doing it...as there is only one way and it has already been taught to us) can make its way, where if we continue to dwell the same way we are , we will end up in a much more bleak scenario.
        The thought that I wanna drive through this is that it's nice if we reduce these short forms step by step and habitually it may be completely driven out , making us to enjoy the real essence of the language.

Yes, I'm tired of....

Okay. This title may make you think that I've gone berserk. Or yeah, you may also feel that I am gonna twaddle by making you bounce to the heights of boredom and return back to this earth with a bang. Well , I don't know really how to classify this one. But yeah, take it as a "confessions of an anonymous person" (sorry that few who read this may know me :P).
                                                                 On a sunny and weary day, came the thirst as a sudden uninvited guest into him.(Well this is not an excerpt from any children's storybook) . But it was soon quenched by a bottle of water.Dot. The thirst had gone, what about the bottle?? Least cared by any. Why should it be important after your mission is achieved?. You are considered a sane person if you feel that the bottle would not cry or feel when you crush it after use. Yes, don't worry .Your IQ is perfect. But what if a human is in the place of that petite bottle? Are you still considered a sane person? It is ironically a yes.
                                                              There occurs many situations in life where a human is treated the same way as the bottle, may be worse than that. This may not happen always, but yeah surely shows its grey shades atleast a few times. In this sociopathic world, nothing that disregards a human seems to be punishable. People have started to become more self-centric and what they care more is their well being. Okay, it's not wrong and it's obvious that you have to sate your needs and achieve and accomplish what you really want. But are these to be done at the expense of another person or people at large? Many people may or may not understand that they bamboozle into other people's life .( Okay I was trying to be diplomatic. It's mostly the former way where people do it knowingly). Most of them try to cover people's mind by their saccharine talks and their mendacious actions. All they want is the help of the other person until their deeds are completed, on which there is no room for any compromise. Then comes the period where they start neglecting the person/people who helped them. This may just be a beginning. The climax of this may even be as worse as being treated like a piece of shit. This may also be countervailed when the person is able to fight back. But for innocent or more frankly people with practical minds ( I am for sure one. Yes by this, I mean it) , fighting back may just seem like an act of clearing  a garbage. The more and more you do, the more it hurts and irks.
                                                           I really don't know from where this kind of cheap attitude arose in the minds of many. Initially I could just see it like that mentioned in the cliché "Once in a blue moon". But as years passed by, I came to understand this it is not the moon but a galaxy of stars (here I mean the people with that cheap habit to disregard a person after using them for what they actually want), that surrounds me . Having crossed nineteen years in my life, leaving apart those ecstatic years of childhood (probably only the first few years), I am tired for I have been clearing my path, crowded with such kind of people. But I always try keeping this in my mind -" I forgive people for what they have done to me. This doesn't mean that I really forgot what they did, but is for me to MOVE ON, by throwing these people into the backstage of my life's play". With most of my life's years yet to be crossed I keep waiting for I know that  this list of mine will never end and may keep oscillating in its count. So am I this cheap plastic filthy bag where people can throw anything they need and crush whenever they want and use it when ever they opine? May be a yes, in their eyes. To me I would still be the same me, helping and aiding to the extent of how much ever I can. But I know that this little volcano inside me would surely explode one day. That one day I can really not predict the apocalypses. Conclusion of my confessions-  You wanna meet some parsimonious minds? Well, I know many. 

Are you really defined by who you are?

Well. This question, a barely easy one to be asked , faces its complexity only when faced or in other words, answered. There is a clean difference between the questions posed to you and the questions that you pose to yourself. In fact in many cases they might be a same question, but would differ in the angle in which it is approached. One such example is the homespun statement "What is the definition of you?". From this article I don't intend to derive a periphrasis, but what I want to clearly convey through this is that are all of us defined by the way we are , when questioned to ourselves?, literally meaning that can you still stay independent and defined by yourself when in a troglodytic situation, not accompanied by your clan?. Well, that surely demands a lot of courage and confidence. 
                                           To most of us ( inclusive of me), a normal day like any other one would not surpass without roaming with our own folks. It is a human tendency to get along in groups the minute you are free. Just recollect the instances such as in school and college, where the moment we know we are put to no work, we gather in groups ( here I mean more than one itself as a group). This surrounding groupism not only ends with the free time but also continues beyond thoughts. There occurs few times where you may always be surrounded by your own sweet friends , pampered and praised by few of them, having the out of the world kind of fun that you would never have had in life. That moment may make you feel that you have got the best of the best that any could deserve. Imagining such a situation itself gives you the sheer happiness and that furore. In fact you could go to that extreme level where you cannot stay a second without your group and sometimes letting them occupy the prominent part of your life.These things would undoubtedly drive you to give that instant reply to the previously stated question- I am defined by my friends or the dear ones I have.Even a minute without them might make you weak and lonely.
                                           Okay. Now coming to the real essence of this article, I am not mentioning this to put down that spirit in you, nor do I state this to invoke that sarcasm about the ones who accompany you. In a real world situation, when you are alone, all alone with no one to stay with you, would you still define yourself with that above stated reply? What I really intend to convey is that always situations do not butter up smoothly. There might be situations in life where you are really facing it in solitary. So it is high time that each one of us should be defined by who really we are, by our potential, by our confidence, by our aims , in other words by our degree of independence. It is always healthy to spend time alone for it might tell you how to be alone and face life individually rather than  defined by another person. Learn to handle things your way, for you may not always be surrounded by the people speaking your opinions and taking your decisions and don't ever let that too.
Now have you realized to which category you belong? If so act promptly by just considering this article  as a sign of a healthy tip for a good life.